![]() ![]() I am fortunate I have that self-control and discipline, since many of our kind do not.Īlcoholism is a symptom of a certain mind set and narcissism is a mindset which lends itself to alcoholism occurring. Watching him as I was younger, observing his behaviours arising from his drinking (and later understanding that this was a layer upon his rampant narcissism) this served as a useful warning to me to ensure that I used drink for my purposes and did not allow it to consume me. His aged frame and bitterness are a clear testament to the aging that comes with a lifetime of downing his first gin and tonic at 11am and not stopping until the stupor arrives sometime after 9pm. I have seen the narcissist who is an alcoholic and that is my Uncle Robert. I like to drink, in fact I enjoy it very much and I can consume significant amounts but I do not become blind drunk because I do not want to lose control. Indeed, there are many occasions where a victim will realise that they are involved with an alcoholic but they will not realise that this person is actually a narcissist who is also an alcoholic since alcoholism is far more readily identifiable than narcissism. ![]() The narcissist however who is also an alcoholic may stop drinking but the narcissism will remain. The addition of alcohol to this individual causes them to become narcissistic but they are not a narcissist. The alcoholic may present with narcissistic traits (as described above) but a sober alcoholic will see those narcissistic traits fall away to reveal that he or she is an alcoholic but not a narcissist. – The pursuit of the end game (fuel/drink) becomes the sole concern of the relevant individualĪccordingly, the behaviours of the narcissist and the alcoholic appear most similar. ![]() – Both engage in switching behaviour, being pleasant and likeable one moment and then suddenly abusive and – Other people find themselves being put second on a repeated basis to the needs of either the narcissist or the alcoholic – Both engage in telling lies on a repeated basis about what they have been doing, where they have been, how much they have had to drink, whether they have had a drink The narcissist manipulates to gain fuel, the alcoholic manipulates to drink. – Both require the manipulation of other people to achieve their aim. – Both have sufferers who lack any insight that they have a problem – There is the deceit that is involved in engaging in excessive drinking and engaging in narcissistic behaviour This is important because narcissism and alcoholism actually share similar traits. How does that factor into the narcissistic dynamic?Īt the outset it is necessary to distinguish between the alcoholic who is a not a narcissist and the narcissist who is an alcoholic. I am referring to alcoholism, where there is a reliance and a dependence on alcohol. What part does alcohol play in the narcissist dynamic? I do not mean the occasional drink with an excellent meal or the social beers in a bar with friends, the regulated and moderate drinking which does not bring with it problems. Drink is everywhere and is deemed socially acceptable despite the misery that its excessive consumption causes. ![]() Drinks at the golf club, prior to the big game, at the BBQ, at the funeral wake, a night cap, a toast, a cheeky snifter before heading home, one for the road, a hair of the dog to shift the hangover. A Bloody Mary prior to lunch, a liquid lunch to conduct business, afternoon drinks because it feels like skipping school, drinks straight from work which turn into a session, celebratory drinks for a birthday, a deal done well, an anniversary or just because it is Friday. ![]()
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